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I am not Perfect

This is the continuation from Try to be like the turtle.

Why do we compare with others? Because we want to be better, if possible, we want to be perfect. But, nobody is perfect. Because of this “Nobody’s perfect” principle of mine, I never give full marks in a survey form. Until I met this young trainee at the company I worked for. She did not get full marks for her trainee report that I gave her and she went all the way to her school’s teacher to get in touch with me even after her training period had ended.

She is hardworking and she has done her job well. So, I “revised” her report, which was already high marks, to give her full marks. Nonetheless, since then, in my dictionary, she is 0 mark in attitude. I would not feel offended if she had told me on the spot when I gave her the report on the last day of the training. She could tell me that the marks are very important to her and that she had really worked hard during the training period.

After she has graduated, from her Facebook’s various comments, I can see that she faces obstacles at work. Everyone faces obstacles at work, but when I read her comments, I feel sad for her. Yes, she can ask the teacher to ask the superior to give her full marks, but she cannot ask her teacher to ask her colleagues or bosses to give her full marks at work. This is reality, face it!

I am not perfect myself. When I was younger, many parents compared their children to me, who had good academic results. But what the parents did not see is, what an unhappy and boring childhood I had, few friends, studying all the time.

Children, be like the turtle, at ease in your own shell.

Parents, let your children be like the turtle. A child who grows at ease in his / her own shell will become a happy adult.

Try To Be Like the Turtle

Try to be like the turtle, at ease in your own shell.

This is a quote by Bill Copeland.
Most of the times, we compare ourselves with others. Even if we do not compare ourselves with others, others will compare us with others. The comparison makes us suffer, because we normally compare with a person who is better than us.
There is this little story, I always compare with other people with nicer shoes, until one day I saw a person without legs.
Starting today, be yourself, you are your own special someone. Do your very best, but do not compare with others. Try to be like the turtle, at ease in your own shell.