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Joneses, can you keep away from me?

You often hear this from your mum: Jenny (the girl next door) is getting the first in the class again, and her Chinese scores 95%! Did you hear me? 95%! And you are only getting 46%, blah, blah, blah…

You may hear this from your wife: Mr. Tan has bought a new car last week, it’s a BMW. When are we getting our old car changed?

You may hear this from your relative: Your cousin is getting married next month. Are you still single? Quickly find someone to marry, you are already old. Don’t be so picky, blah, blah, blah…

You may hear this from your friend: Barbara has given birth to her third child. I can’t imagine that… Wait, you have married for a few years already, right? Still no good news? You should go and see this gynae, I heard he is a good doctor, blah, blah, blah…

You may hear this from your colleague: You remember Mr. Wong? Last time he was just a technician in our factory. Now promoted to director in the new company, damn fast man. Hey, you are still a supervisor? I think you better go and take course, upgrade yourself, then promote faster, blah, blah, blah…

The list goes on…

First things first, why do I need to keep up with people who have a different life from mine? Everyone has his or her own life path that he or she needs to go through. If everyone goes through the same life path, isn’t it a bit dull and boring?

Secondly, if you keep comparing yourself with the Joneses, in the long run, you will find yourself feeling miserable, discouraged and depressed. Unless, you are better than the Joneses; still, you will make other people feeling miserable, discouraged and depressed. It is not a win-win situation either way.

Nonetheless, we are surrounded by all the “kind-hearted” people who will keep comparing us with other people and they will say it is for our own good. We cannot run away from those people, but we can keep ourselves sane by comparing only with ourselves.

If you are a student, keep track on one number, your total marks, your average mark, your Chinese Language mark (If you are poor in Chinese Language and you want to improve it) or any other mark that you like.

If you are an adult, you have more choices, your weight, your bank account balance, how many books you have read in a week? how many calories you have eaten today? etc. It is all up to you. For me, it is how many likes I have collected in a week (Please give me more likes, thanks!)

It is just that simple. The catch is, keep track only one number at a time. By keeping track on only one number, you focus on the one and only thing that you want to improve. Nobody’s perfect, as long as you are improving, even on one single thing, you are on the right track. 

On the other hand, if you think that keeping up with the Joneses will make you have a sense to work harder and a life goal to look forward to, then, it is highly recommended that you keep keeping up with the Joneses 🙂


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