Everyone has his/her family. We should always cherish our family because they are the closest to us, especially our parents. There is a saying in Chinese, 百善以孝为先, which means filial piety is the most important kindness act. If we cannot be kind to our parents, whom should we be kind to?
My father was an ordinary man, so ordinary that I do not know how to describe him. Nonetheless, he had taught me several important concepts in life (without actually telling me):
- It was the first time I sent my dad a present for Father’s Day. He accepted the gift, but told me that the best present for him would be me getting good results in school. Since then, I had never sent him a single gift, but he had received the best present every year until I graduated from university. Though he never told me that he was proud of me, I know, he was happy whenever I brought my results to him.
- Make my own decision. When I was in P6, there was an important decision for every student to make. I brought the form home and asked my dad to make the decision. He returned a signed form to me, without any decision. He told me, I should make my own decision because I was the one who knew the importance of the decision and how it would affect me. Of course, he would respect whatever decision I made. It ended up I made a good decision. Since then, I have learnt to make my own decision and take the responsibility to bear the consequences.
- Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Whenever I was facing a dilemma, or a tough decision, my father always told me in his not-so-formal Chinese, do not fear, as long as you are prepared for the worst; always hope for the best to come. As his daughter, I translated his words into English so that I could always remind myself even when he was not here for me.
- My dad always brought the whole family to visit our relatives on Chinese New Year. I have learnt that family is important and families should always keep in touch. Thus, Chinese New Year is a very important festival to me and I will visit my family and relatives regularly as long as I am fit and healthy to do so.
My father died a year before I get married. Sometimes, I really hope that he is still alive and can teach me how to survive marriage life. Although he was not a smart father, not a rich father, but he had wisdom, had the best father’s qualities that just suit his daughter. Don’t worry, father, whatever you have taught me, whether directly or indirectly, I will always remember.